Phone contact privileges during dependency cases.

ANOTHER NIGHT WITHOUT HEARING FROM MY CHILDREN....DON'T KNOW IF THEY ARE HEALTHY, IN THIS COUNTRY, HAPPY, OR ALIVE.

I believe this is every parents worst nightmare, and this is what I have been facing for the past 10 months. I can't answer any of these questions myself... nor can anyone person from the department, the extended family, not even my children know what is happening here. Nor do I have the luxury of trying to explain to my children. They are only hearing one side of the story and so is the court. This is insane.

I can understand if I abused my kids, neglected them, OR did awful things to them,but I haven't!
All I did was worry about them,try to protect my kid's, and love my babies wholeheartedly.
I don't even know why they took my kid's from me???? That's how sad this is. It seems as if my children have been literally kidnapped because the system has done nothing to resolve our problems or given me any relief in having contact with my children.

What is happening is......... Parental alienation.
No resolution, or reunification apparent in my dependency case. I am so worried and a nervous wreck constantly...it never relents.

Please understand..See when you have witnessed abuse for many years and finally want to tell someone....anyone.....what has happened in the past, present, and what you know will be your children's future if you don't do something quick...your reluctant, because you know people will only judge you and persecute you. Even a child who doesn't know enough to manipulate or lie is defenseless against people who judge and have authority, power, and control.

So where does that leave us vulnerable people who are battered and put down in a state of fear and confusion? Sorry to tell you this, but unfortunately in my experience, this outcome puts you at a disadvantage.

Who are they going to believe?
A child who can't speak...... A child who was not taken seriously before......... and A battered mother who is finally speaking up for herself... OR
A whole entourage of people with money and lies?

I guess it don't take a rocket scientist to answer this question.

My advice personally to any mother's or father's who are going through a separation or divorce. ALWAYS have an escape plan, and if you can prevent it at all never get the authorities or DCF, CPS, CPI involved. They don't care about you and your kid's as much as they should. They are the wolves and your the shepherd so do your best to handle the situation the best way you know how without interference. Don't let anyone into your home without a warrant. Even if you feel you have nothing to worry about or hide....someone could be setting you up. People can be real cruel and you may not see it coming.

Now ten months have dragged on and I can't even hear my kid's voices or see their face, or give them anything to show I love them. I am sensitive and very hurt. I have been this whole time. Every day between 8-9pm I pick up the phone and dial that mans phone number and it goes straight to voicemail my heart breaks to the point.I don't want to pick up the phone ever again. It becomes an evil game that tortures my heart.

Imagine calling your mother everyday and she never picks up. Doesn't make you feel very loved now does it? See that's what I had to face my whole life and even though I am a grown women now it still bothers me. It makes me feel worthless and abandoned. This feeling I never wanted my kids to ever feel and now they are being forced to by this man and the system.

This is why I must implement a law in the judicial civil family court system to make it mandatory once children are separated from a parent to have a daily phone contact plan adjudicated by the court regardless of crime. Children be given government phones or have daily access to a phone in case of emergency or when they feel the need to talk to their parents.

This sort of contact should never be deprived of a child due to the need for security and well-being of each child.

What is it teaching children when this law is not being upheld? It is teaching them that they are not valued, and their security doesn't matter. When one parent alienates a child from another parent it causes animosity amongst everyone involved and severs relationships that are significant to the welfare of each human being to feeling whole. For life would cease to exist if two people were not involved and by GOD it should take two people to put aside their differences to raising that child to become a man and woman who should understand the value of family.